RASA Survivors, like me, was born out of horrendous reasons, but does tremendous reaching out to people who have no clue where to go, who to trust, how to go on, and more. Unless you are a victim, you really have no idea how tough it really is. For one thing, take everything you ever learned about justice and throw it out the broken window. The legislatures MEAN well, but without consistent following through and penalties that match the crimes - until we rate humans higher than material possessions -it's a failed system. In fact, the majority of really bad crime, happens after the victim finally puts their proverbial foot down. A protective order, for instance, will hurt the victim if it's not been obtained in a court of law, however for the victim, it can mean an abuse sentence or much worse.
The number one cause of death to pregnant women? Their husbands or boyfriends. Yep. And God forbid the kids see it or live it, was well.
Let me introduce you to RASA Survivors. Many of you know I have a technical problem with the term "survivor" instead of victim, but the point is what matters (for those wondering... yes, I survived my two rapes by the same man who molested at least one of my daughters in five different jurisdictions, but at what cost? It's been eight year and we are still in court, we still are unable to move anywhere without permission. Each ring of the bell, knock on the door can start it all over. We have stalking and harassing going on sometimes 24 hours a day, which includes veiled death threats in our local paper and on his public community blogs. We are victims. We may always be. We haven't survived, we only lived through it and deal with it again and again, every single day. The term survivor is to push us away. We don't ask why the perp gets a lawyer and not only do we not get one, but we aren't even in charge, were are but "MERE WITNESSES."
I could go on... but I am exhausted. No sleep. I'll be back. In the meantime, check out my new friend's website, blog, and information.
"RASA Survivors was created for survivors and secondary survivors of Rape and Sexual Assault. NOTE: I said SURVIVORS!! Although victimized, we have survived and this site is for survival techniques and ideas. Friendships, formed from a positive light rather than a focus on negative memories from your incident."
